Cake for Dessert

As part of the wedding celebration–rich in lore and tradition–the wedding cake is a strong and symbolic centerpiece. There are boundless opportunities to create a cake and cake cutting tradition that can be uniquely yours.

You can choose the traditional, tiered, all white wedding cake with a bride and groom gracing the top layer. You can order from a wide range of cake flavors–chocolate, banana, carrot, sponge, almond, or lemon, You can get creative with fillings and frostings–ganache, mousse, mascarpone, cream cheese, butter creme, or fondant. You can select from a variety of shapes. Squares, rectangles, pyramids, and ovals are replacing the standard 3-5 tier round wedding cake.

Some brides are choosing to have many smaller wedding cakes rather than one big one–usually placed as the center piece at each guest table.

Some couples on a budget are choosing a smaller display cake that they will cut for photos. Guests then dine on sheet cake cut in the kitchen and served to guests from the cake table, buffet, or passed out by servers.

You can select a groom’s cake to complement the wedding cake. It can be flavored or have special filling, or even be a special shape to reflect his interests.

Some couples have chosen to eliminate the wedding cake itself and offer their guest multiple dessert choices from a separate dessert buffet. Other couples are replacing the traditional wedding cake with frosted petit fours and/or cupcakes or cake pops.

Ice cream cakes are a favorite of some couples. While they may be a fun idea, cutting and serving these cakes requires patience and speed.

Cake tops are inventive and lovely. While the standard bride and groom are available, they are frequently replaced by fresh flower arrangements in colors to compliment the wedding theme, porcelain or glass flowers arrangements that will be kept for home display, figurines from personal collections, a tiara filled with fresh flowers to match the bridal design, or frosting flowers which reflect the fabric or design of the wedding gown itself.

 

Prevention

With all the planning that must happen, and all the aspects of a wedding to consider, taking plans to keep the process flowing and your planning more joyful, experts advise brides to consider the following:

  1. Make realistic plans at the start.
    While you might dream of a celebrity style wedding, be real. “Design a day that allows you to reach your goal of marriage without undue stress and complications.” (Wedding Planner Jacqueline Smith) This is accomplished by looking at who you are as a couple, how much time you have to plan and how much money you will have for this wedding. Advice from a certified wedding planner can be a valuable up front investment.
  2. Be organized and disciplined. 
    With plans in place, stay focused on your objective and you will avoid wasting time, energy and resources. Pay attention to the details. Frequently it is the little things that get overlooked. Deal with them early and keep them from becoming major problems later on.
  3. Keep a positive outlook. 
    Brides who are positive and joyful at the prospect of their wedding day are pleasant to be around. They remember what this is really about and make this the true focus. All of the rest of the activity is to support this. Don’t let yourself get sidetracked by meaningless issues. Be thankful for and happy with the help others offer to give you. Remember that you are part of a couple. Share the joy and include the groom on plans and decisions.
  4. Make those decisions
    Know that this is a milestone event in your life and it requires a myriad of decisions to be made on a wide range of issues. Trust your instincts on many of those decisions, confer when necessary, seek advice on the most difficult, decide and move on to the next item on the list.
  5. Be flexible
    Remember Murphy? Uninvited Murphy, and his “law” usually attend most weddings. Just be prepared to make changes when needed. Don’t let problems throw you over the edge. Know that even the best plans have ways of coming unglued, so be prepared to deal with them as a creative challenge. Let yourself be flexible enough to adjust when faced with the obvious. This is much easier if you have a “Plan B” tucked away “just in case”.

Favors

One small way to make sure that guests remember how special your wedding was is to make sure there are special gifts for guests to take home with them. With today’s interest in personalized weddings, amke sure that whatever mementos you select carry your names and wedding date.

For a spring wedding consider packets of flower seeds in glassine envelopes with a message from you both that talks about growth and love.

Ordinary mints can be transformed into special packed when wrapped in tulle and tied with ribbons matching your color scheme. Attach a message of thanks to each packet. Keep the ribbon ends long and place bunches of packets in baskets for guests to take home with them as they leave the reception.

If tulle isn’t your thing, pack sugared almonds, mints, or chocolates into small boxes. Personalize each box with a foil sticker bearing your names and wedding date including a thank you note.

More and more couples are creating CDs of their favorite music and providing them for guests to take as they leave the reception.

If you are planning to have a photo booth at the reception, provide a small frame for each guest to use to take their photo home.

Some couples prefer a dessert station to a formal wedding cake and instead provide each guest with a small individual cake–boxed and ready for each of them to take home.

If yours is a destination wedding, an appropriate favor might be a luggage tag. An outdoor wedding may call for a small potted pine tree or a succulent plant depending on your location.

Whatever you choose, take this opportunity to share your joy and thanks with those friends and relatives who have come together to help you celebrate your new life together.

Guest Dilemmas

In spite of all the media attention on weddings big and small, there are still awkward “I’m not sure how to handle this” moments  for guests. There are many variations in the “new” wedding traditions. They vary by region, by ethnicity, and by what TV show the bride is watching. The “rules” that applied to earlier weddings have been relaxed and while it is good news for the brides and grooms, it can be tougher on guests. Stop and see us for answers to the simplest conundrum and advice on the most complicated social question.

The driving force for this is the desire to “be the best possible guest” at the wedding to which you have been invited. The “rules” used to be simpler and clearer. Today;s touch individuality, which enables the couple to have the wedding of their dreams-unique as it could be- some times leaves guests in a nether word of “what does this mean”?

  1. How do I know if my “partner” or “significant other” is included in the invitation that is addressed to me?   If you are close friends with the bride or the couple, expect the invitation to be addressed to you on the outer envelope, and on the inner envelope expect to see your name + guest (or your partner’s name). If it is a contemporary invitation that has no inner envelope, you’ll need to check the reply card for clues. If the invitation is addressed to you only and the reply card says “I will attend or I won’t attend” no guest is included. If the reply card has room for a guest, it will have a line that says “# attending ________”. You send back the reply with a #2 on the line and you have just experienced the now famous “plus one” rule
  2. If i am a friend of the bride and guests at her wedding, to whom do I address the check? I don’t have time to search out the various wedding registries and live by the adage that “when in doubt, send cash?”  You will find “experts” who tell you that you should make the check out to the groom. You will find “experts” who tell you to make the check out to the couple. We advise to make the check out to the bride using both her maiden and new name (depending on her decision about her new last names). After all, you are wishing her well in her new life.
  3. I received an invitation to the wedding of a college friend. I can’t attend but want to send a gidt even though the “rules” of etiquette sat this is not necessary. Should I send it before the wedding to the bride (my friend) or after the wedding to the couple? If the bride is your friend, send the gift with a personal note explaining why you can’t attend but including your very best wishes for a long and happy married life. If the groom is your friend, send the gift to the couple via the bride’s house address. Again, explain why you can’t be there in person, but assuring each of your good wishes and congratulations. Depending on your relationship to the groom, a personal call to him may be in order.
  4. I am not sure of how much to give if my gift choice is a check. How do I know what is appropriate? If you have time and know where the bride is registered, go look at the selection list to get a sense of how much is the average  gift choice. Send that in lieu of the actual gift. If you are planning to attend the wedding and reception the unwritten rule is that you will pay for the cost of your dinner plus a gift as well. Guests at what the dinner will cost per person as toss in something extra. Please know that this “rule” is ignored by many consultants who tell you to “go with your heart”. That advice may work for some, but others require a more constant guideline. We think the cost of one dinner plus extra is a good one.
  5. The invitation did not specify the degree of formality of this wedding. What should I wear? Very formal weddings often specify “black tie required” or “black tie preferred” on the invitation. Absent this indicator, you are “free” to dress appropriately for this event. One assumes good taste (minimum nudity or skin showing), and color choice. Once black and/or white were considered in poor taste. Now, one only needs to be concerned with one issue– if you wear white–don’t in any way be seen as competing with the bride.  In other words,  you can wear white–just don’t look like a bridal competitor. You can wear black–just so you are not seen as a jilted lover morning her loss.

In these situations and others, call our experienced consultants about the right way to be the perfect guest.

Selecting Your Florist

Most reputable florists will encourage brides to makes an appointment well in advance of the wedding date.

During your initial meeting with your florist, you will share with him/her your wedding style and budget for flowers. (Note that TheKnot.com suggests that wedding flowers budgets usually accounts for 8-10% of the wedding budget.)

You should be prepared to talk about colors, themes, decor, venue rules and restrictions. Bring photos and swatches of your gown and bridesmaids dresses whenever possible. Talk about your favorite flowers and be sure to discuss the kind of service you need. Are you counting on the floral designer to do just bouquets and church flowers or do you want this professional to handle all of the design for ceremony and reception? Do you want them to just deliver the flowers to the church or do you expect them to place floral arrangements, aisle decorations (if ordered) and reception flowers? Will they provide someone to pin on corsages and boutonnieres at the ceremony or will you?

Here are some other questions that you may wish to consider asking as you interview your florist:

  • If he/she doesn’t offer the information, ask about the design credentials and experience of the florists.
  • Ask to see the operations area of the florists you are considering. There should be room for your bouquets and displays without crowding.
  • Ask about how far in advance of your wedding day they will begin the design process. You don’t want bouquets assembled and then sitting in coolers for days.
  • Ask how they insure that your flowers will be at their freshness peak. Ask about the processing system they use to protect and feed the flowers as they arrive from growers.
  • Ask to see the cooler space they will use to store your completed flowers.

Flowers are an essential part of your wedding environment and key fashion accessories. Select the best you can afford and make sure of the services you want and need well in advance of the wedding date.

Ceremony Ideas

Both religious and cultural traditions have a great deal to contribute to your wedding plans. Within the confines of your church or synagogue’s traditions, there is likely to be room for you to add touches that will make the ceremony even more meaningful.

Consider having ceremony hosts great arriving guests at entrance doors. Choose one from each family to insure having someone who is likely to recognize many of the guests as they arrive. Instruct ushers to be cordial and make small talk with guests as they are seated.

The unity candle is one of the most universal ceremonial touches in weddings. To make it even more meaningful to you consider adding the feature of having both mothers come forward and each light one of the two individual candles symbolizing two families that are coming together in this wedding. After the mothers have lit those candles, then the bride and groom step forward and take those two lit candles and light the larger single pillar candle. In that moment, their two individual lights become one.

As a part of the ceremony, you may wish to observe a moment of silence for or a song played in memory of a loved one who is not there for your wedding. Some couples chose to have a small bouquet or single boutonniere placed on an empty chair to represent the presence of a departed loved one.

If your wedding brings together children from previous relationships, consider giving rings to the children of this new marriage. The rings could be birthstones or diamond chips and should all be similar. The symbolism of these rings for a new family is very powerful.

As the ceremony ends, turn and face the audience then take a small bow as a couple and pause as you begin the recessional. Stop and hug your parents and say thank you. Exit to a special celebratory music.

If you plan a receiving line at the ceremony site, include as many bridal party and family members as you like. It is helpful to have the last person in the line hand out direction to the reception if it is to be held at a different location.

 

Black Friday White Sale!

Mark your calendars! You don’t want to  miss out on our Black Friday White Sale! This sale will be going on for two days on Friday November 27th and Saturday November 28th. Save money on bridal gowns, with all of our gowns on sale! Holiday shoes will be on sale as well. This is a great time to take an opportunity on getting some great deals because it only comes once a year!


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Bridesmaids

The history of bridesmaids is time and culture dependent. However, their main charge seems to have been to “protect” the bride, “intervene” on her behalf and/or help outsmart the evil spirits who gathers as a group at weddings or other happy events.

Today’s bridesmaids still fulfill some of those roles, even if the evil spirit still happens to be a former boyfriend with too much champagne and too little class, or a college roommate who thinks it would be fun to “steal” the bride between the ceremony and the reception. Bridesmaids can often be the voice of reason when they hear “Let’s _____, it’ll be funny. You’ll see.” They can put a stop to nonsense early.

Bridesmaids give up time and money in return for the honor of being witnesses to the brie’s very special day. We urge our brides to remember the important role they play in her wedding to pay attention to thanking them for their help and caring.

Here are some tips we have gathered over the years.

  • Selecting the bridesmaids’ dresses does not have to be an occasion of conflict. Cost, style color and accessories can be issues only if you let them. If you can help financially, by all means do so. If your wedding party represents a wide collection of sizes and shapes, work closely with a skilled and experienced wedding consultant who knows best vendors to choose to work with your wedding. An experienced retailer will work hard to make sure that the shopping experience is rewarding for all, and will ensure that what you have ordered is what you will receive. If the bridal retailer is a member of National Bridal Service, you can relax and know that all will be well.
  • Make sure that your bridesmaids are getting enough attention from you. Keep them in the loop about events and plans. Accept help if it is offered.
  • Make sure they have a clear idea of what to do and what you expect from them. Your maid of honor can take on the responsibility of keeping all maids in the loop. Don’t be too demanding. Just because your wedding is consuming your every waking moment, keep in mind that bridesmaids do have lives beyond the wedding.
  • Be sure to assemble a survival kit for the wedding. Work with your personal attendant to make sure all necessary items are in the kit and trust her to bring it to the dressing area of the ceremony location, and to reclaim it after the ceremony has ended.  A good wedding planner will always take care of this.
  • Make sure to thank bridesmaids often. Thoughtful gifts are always appreciated.

Take time to ask questions, share concerns, and plan ways to make bridesmaids feel truly a part of this very special day.

Wedding Gown Care

You’ll never own anything as beautiful and symbolic as your wedding gown! Here at Perfect Weddings we’d like to give you some tips on preserving it as a keepsake or for your gown daughter to wear one day.

Your wedding gown must be carefully cleaned before storing.  Food and beverage stains, though invisible at first glance, may yellow later on.  The hemline is usually soiled and must be cleaned.  Many cleaners may offer to pack your gown in a special box, which offers protection from dust in the air.  We offer a special gown preservation service that will take care of all of the steps for you!

If you decide to store it yourself, it is best to place it in a cool dray place, not in the basement or attic.  If you choose to store it on hangers, sew straps to the waistline to relieve pressure on the shoulders from the weight of the skirt.  If you have sleeves on your gown, stuff the sleeves with white tissue paper. Finally wrap the entire garment in a protective sheet or muslin covering.  Do encase the gown in plastic.

Before you trust this special symbol of your wedding day to just anyone, talk with us about your cleaning and storage options.

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